i think the slow and steady approach is the most practical. Especially if reality is quite different from imagined fantasy. i would also be a bit suspect of a Domme willing to throw everything at you in an initial session.

Thanks ossa250, we`re in agreement -:). Though, that very first visit is really something quite special ! I think you need that first visit to get "it" out of your system, then calm down and try to approach things more logically (if it can ever be logical).

For me, it doesn't matter whatever thoughts/ideas have been circling round in my mind - it all comes down to wanting to please Mistress in any way She chooses. It's that sense of being taken on a journey somewhere and not having the slightest inkling of a. where you're going to end up b. how you will be guided. As long as I can see the slightest flicker of pleasure/satisfaction in Her eyes or hear it in Her voice then I know I'm on the right path wherever it's going.

Quite so subben95, but what about that first meeting, before you`d built up that respect and trust?

maslavem, it's still quite a simple thing even on a first meeting - I don't really have a checklist of things for a first meeting because for me it's all about the submission, giving up control completely - all I need to discover is that I'm submitting to a genuine Domme who will value and accept my submission and take intense pleasure from it - sort of like offering myself as a blank page for Mistress to write whatever story She wants to write (in fact I guess what I'm looking for in a first meeting is a reassurance that the Domme isn't actually just running through a checklist of things she does with every other slave - MA is a genuine Domme to Her core and I knew very quickly that I was incredibly fortunate to have found Her and to be accepted and used by Her).