In one of Her recent twitter posts Mistress Angelica stated: “When I have you where I want you it's just the best feeling!”

In response I posted: “But You do not specify for who? I think this is definitely a Win/win scenario”

my Mistress replied: “I was talking about Me, but see it works both ways”

I finished by acknowledging that from a slaves’ perspective “There is nothing more satisfying than knowing that by serving Your purpose it gives pleasure to You. The fact that I enjoy being in that position I can promise You is only of secondary consideration.”

With hindsight I ought to have specified that the view I had just expressed was from this particular slave’s perspective. Another of my Mistress’s collared slaves did indicate that they were not sure they agreed entirely with my take, and suggested that ‘subhub’ might be a forum to air views, so perhaps I might explain where I am coming from in this short article.

I think that each of us has a slightly different reason or motivation to engage with a pro Domme, but clearly there is something that drives each of us to visit. When I started this journey in to kink that is exactly what I did, I visited. I had an immediate desire fulfilled, and then waited until that desire built again and I could afford another visit to a service provider, and often a different one each time.

And I was content. My needs were being met, and I generally assumed that the pro Domme was happy with their side of the bargain. I would even venture to suggest that should I choose to visit another Domme again in the future that I might still gain short term satisfaction. But through the benefit of my current D/s relationship I have seen and felt far more.

Yes it is important to me that certain particular ‘itches are scratched’ and with Mistress Angelica I will go on record again and again to profess my appreciation for how She makes me feel and for who She has allowed me to become. But I don’t ‘visit’ any more, I ‘serve’.

For many years now my perspective has been coloured by the lady who allows me to serve Her, and it is honestly important to me that She gains at least as much satisfaction out of O/our play as I do. It is for that reason that I recognise in Her opening remark the importance of being where She wants me to be, whether that be in a physical position during session play, or under her psychological hold which is now a permanent part of makes me what I am today. If I am where She wants me to be it is a wonderful feeling to know that my service is appreciated, and what better satisfaction can I get?

It would be interesting to hear other views on this topic.